Anyone who doubts that movie stars – especially movie stars who have led privileged lives since the day they were born – can live in ivory towers, with no sense at all of what the real world is like, need go no further than Gwyneth Paltrow.
As you may be aware, two months ago Ms. Paltrow “distinguished” herself by whining about how hard her life was, compared to a working mom. Here exact words:
“Ithink it\’s different when you have an office job, because it\’sroutine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning andthen you come home in the evening. When you\’re shooting a movie,they\’re like, \’We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,and then you work 14 hours a day, and that part of it is verydifficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, ofcourse there are challenges, but it\’s not like being on set.”
Ms. Paltrow somehow left out the fact that working moms also have been known to work long hours. They don\’t have nannies to watch their children while out in some terrible inconvenience like the state of Wisconsin. And they don\’t get paid millions of dollars to do it, or walk red carpets in front of adoring fans when their job is done. They clean their house and try to figure out how to pay their bills instead.
You\’d think that a dumbass comment like this one, which was ridiculed even by some of the ivory tower people who share her “cry for me, I have to go to Wisconsin for which I will be paid more money than you will ever see in your lifetime” existence, would make Ms. Paltrow think twice before opening that mouth again.
Well, it didn\’t.
Here is her latest – in which she laments that some people say negative things about her on twitter:
“Youcome across [online comments] about yourself and about your friends,and it\’s a very dehumanizing thing. It\’s almost like, how in war,you go through this bloody dehumanizing thing and then something isdefined out of it.”
Poor, poor Gwyneth. Someone tweeted that they didn\’t like the designer dress she wore last night, or her makeup was off, and now she knows how a soldier feels on the battlefield.
Tell you what: instead of showing you what an obtuse, ridiculous unbelievably tone-deaf, embarrassingly idiotic comment that is (not that you don\’t already know), let me post a letter, written in response to Paltrow\’s comment, from Green Beret SPC Brian Sykes, which I pulled from clashdaily.com See if you think Mr. Sykes makes more sense than Ms. Paltrow:
I\’dfirst like to start out by saying how terrible I feel for you and allyour friends that on a daily basis have to endure mean words writtenby people you don\’t know. I can only imagine the difficulty ofwaking up in a 12,000 square foot Hollywood home and having yourassistant retrieve your iPhone, only to see that the battery is lowand someone on twitter (the social media concept that you and all ofyour friends contribute to on an hourly basis to feed your ego andnarcissistic ways), has written a mean word or 2 about you. You\’vehit the nail on the head, war is exactly like that. You shouldreceive a medal for the burden you have carried on your shoulders dueto these meanies on social media.
Yousaid, “Its almost like, how in war, you go through this bloodydehumanizing thing and then something is defined out of it.” Icould see how you, and others like you in “the biz”, could be soinsecure and mentally weak that you could pair the difficulty of yourlife on twitter to my brothers who have had their limbs ripped offand seen their friends shot, blown up, burned and disfigured, or wakeup every morning in pain – while just starting the day is achallenge. How about our wives? The ones that sign on to be there forus through thick and thin, that help us to shake the hardships of warupon our return? And do all this while being mothers to our kids,keeping bills in order because we are always gone, and keeping ourlives glued together. They do all this, by the way, without a team ofaccountants, nanny\’s, personal assistants, and life coaches. Yeah,reading a mean tweet is just like all that.
Youknow what is really “dehumanizing”, Miss Paltrow? The fact thatyou\’d even consider that your life as an “A-list” celebrityreading internet comments could even compare to war and what isendured on the battlefield. You and the other “A-listers” thatthink like you are laughable. You all have actually convincedyourselves that you in some way face difficulty on a regular basis.Let me be the first to burst your bubble: a long line at Starbucks,your driver being 3 minutes late, a scuff mark on your $1200 shoesand a mean tweet do not constitute difficulty in the eyes of asoldier.
Understandme when I say this: war does not define me. It is a chapter in mylife that helped shaped me. Being a husband and father is whatdefines me. Remember, sticks and stones may break my bones but wordswill never…be close to what war is.
I don\’t know what anyone could possibly add to what Mr. Sykes said.
But I know how Ms. Paltrow should respond, if she has any shame at all: “SPC Sykes, I apologize to you 1,000 times over for my impossibly obtuse, ridiculous unbelievably tone-deaf, embarrassingly idiotic comment. I will try very hard never to say anything like it again. I will remind myself every day of what a charmed, privileged life I lead…and that it is the bravery, courage and patriotism of people like you who enable me to live that life.”
Do you think that response will ever be forthcoming? I\’ll believe it when I see it.
But, while we are waiting, maybe Gwyneth Paltrow could do us all a favor: maybe she could just shut up about her dreadful, unhappy life, and stick to acting.